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September 2022
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Familiar and comfortable

So my brother’s visiting. He’s also visiting his girlfriend, so he hasn’t been around constantly and we made plans with him and his gf and Bear and I to all go to lunch today at 1:30. This morning I woke up at 9am and found Bear playing WOW. Which meant he hadn’t gone to sleep. Which meant the chances of him going to lunch were miniscule. I got kinda pissed and ended up pissing him off a little. Then I coaxed him into bed and into sleep because I care more about him functioning than I do about him going out to lunch.

While I was getting him into bed, he kept saying that he was going to lunch and he wasn’t going to fall asleep. I kept saying “Ok.” because he needed to relax. He was way wound up. Finally at 10am, he fell asleep. He fell asleep swearing to me that he was going to lunch and that he wasn’t going to fall asleep. I had no faith in either of those things happening. Especially once he started snoring.

At 1pm, I was a little mopey but very sure of myself. I go to get dressed and he wakes up while I’m getting my clothes. At first he’s falling back asleep, but he ends up getting up. Showered and everything so that by the time my brother and his gf arrived we were at the door. It ended up being a nice lunch and now at 11:30, I’m laughing at the memory of snapping at him that if he wanted to get out of lunch he could have just said something instead of staying up all night.

I remember days when this would have been crushing. I would have been crying at Bear and been mopey at lunch. Bear would have fed off my attitude and been snappish. I know we only got married around 4 months ago, but I think there’s something to be said for having a relationship that’s 6 years old. I love how comfortable the relationship is now. How I know Bear well enough to know how certain things will go, but no matter how familiar he is, he still surprises me.