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February 2010
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Home is wherever I’m with you

I wasn’t going to do this, but look at this saucy girl!!

Bear has the best ideas.

I had to burn up

Last night I lit a fire in our new fireplace. Well. It’s not new to the house, but it’s a new house with a fireplace. Oh whatever. Except that Bear was paranoid and then I couldn’t get the flue open and then Bear got his hands super sooty trying to fix it for me which made him want a fireplace even LESS than he already did. BUT!

We got a fire going and burned the three logs that were in there. Bear won’t let me light another one though. We are going to get an insert at some point. The fire is good heat.

I also went around and took pictures of the plants since I had the camera out.

First is my orchid. Despite my neglect, it keeps on thriving. I’ve had the plant since June, when my mother bought it for me.

It has two new blooms that you can see open and one big bud. But even better is the shoot with three tiny blooms on it. The only bad part is that the plant’s flowers were originally bigger. I’ve got to figure out what I’m doing wrong.

The Amaryllis was picked out by Bear. I was going to go for one with peachy-orange blooms, but he was captivated by the lone red one. When we bought it, the second stalk was shorter and the blooms on the larger stalk looked sickly. It looks much better now.

These two are for Bear’s desk, once he gets everything set up. The one on the left is the money tree and the one on the right is the juniper. Bear was very disappointed with the “bonsai” selection that Home Depot had, but I like his selections. Granted it took him forever to pick these two. He wanted tiny plants, which was fine. They also needed to have waxy leaves and look a certain way and not need too much sunlight and not need too much water and they needed to be ok with his computer and compliment his new desk and I don’t even know because we looked at every plant they had at Home Depot. It was fun actually.

I was looking for plants for Bear when I saw this succulent and I was captivated by it’s green frilly healthy leaves and the purple tips on the dying leaves. It seems to be doing well here. I’ve stuck it in the sunniest spot in our house, which happens to be next to my glass dragon. I also gave it water before I realized that it should only be watered once a month in the winter. Oh well. I’m sure I’ll neglect it soon enough to keep it alive. I’m good at neglecting my plants. I just gotta keep picking ones that thrive in those conditions.

Never wanted to draw outside the lines more

Bear took a long thin splinter out of my finger last night while we finally watched the opening ceremony for the Olympics. This is amazing because we haven’t had cable to a TV that we can sit down and watch since… the 13th? Nope. Before that. Probably around the 9th before we shoved the couches and coffee table together to make more room. Not that it’s a huge deal, we don’t watch much TV. It just signaled a return to some level of normality. We’ve been scrubbing and washing and packing or unpacking for so long now that I’m losing my mind. I lost my wallet at some point in there. I also found my wallet. I go to bed and wake up a little confused. Our bedroom doesn’t even have the furniture that I’m accustomed to in it. We decided in some kind of brilliant/stupid epiphany to split up our bedroom set between the two guest bedrooms and to upgrade ourselves to a king sized bed. When we can afford it. Which won’t be for a little bit. So our bedroom is barren. Except for the boxes.

Owning a home is weird. It’s not just that you have this space. It’s that no one else knows how your radiators work. We are really lucky n that we have this one awesome neighbor that we’ve met and she tried to help us. Our bedroom and Bear’s office are still freezing though. We bought an electric heater for the bedroom and Bear’s going to set up his computer for his office.

If that statement right there doesn’t hang you up, let me repeat it. Bear’s going to set up his computer for his office. As in, he has not YET set up his computer. I’ve had moments where I’m worried the world is going to end (I think it has to do with the stress? It’s a creepy ass feeling.) and Bear not rushing to set up his computer is one of the things that causes that feeling. We did buy a few more plants which makes me feel better. My amaryllis and orchid have been combatting the world-ending feeling. I find it strange, but I’m grateful all the same. Now I have this funny looking succulent that I found on sale and Bear has a money tree and a juniper. The money tree was also on sale, which tickles me. The succulent isn’t aloe or agave or any of the ones that I recognized, but it was very pretty to me. I’ll take pictures tomorrow.

We’ve been moving into our house. I’ve been only sporadically online and then only for specific reasons. Washing dishes and clothes and unpacking boxes and moving furniture around and washing drawers and cabinets and shelves has been a bigger job than I ever thought it would be. Bear’s been amazingly sweet. He’s also been jittery and very sleepy which is a bad combination. I do have to say, I couldn’t move without him. I remember moving into my dorm the first year of undergrad and how awful that felt even with Mom and Carl keeping me company for as long as they could. I just wish Bear would stop looking at furniture on craigslist. I’d rather put our clothes on the floor than look at another piece of wood or glass or metal that we don’t already own.

I’m really really not even joking.


Because yesterday still feels incredibly unreal to me, I’m going to record it all. Bear compares yesterday to our wedding. I think he might not be too far off. I still regret not actually writing down every moment that I remember of that day, so I’m not going to make the same mistake this time.

7:00 am

I hit the snooze twice because Bear had fallen asleep at 4am only after I beat the hell out of his back and legs and pulled his hands until the joints popped to work out the worst of the anxiety. I’d only been asleep for 2 hours. We dragged out asses out of bed at 7:30, hit the bathroom, and put the two bags of stuff, blankets, and vacuum into the car.


We ran back inside for the 5th time to grab our phones and were at the house by 8:30am. Which meant that we wandered around the backyard for 45 minutes, with breaks in the car to warm up. It wasn’t as frigid as it has been, but it was still pretty cold outside. (I’d guess about 25 degrees. Bear, if you read this, comment and correct me if I’m wrong.) I also sent a million texts to people freaking out. I was physically sick with anxiety. Bear had gotten hit with the worst of it the night before and was more running on pure excitement.


We were warming up in the car when our real estate agent pulled up at 9:14am. We walked into the house. It was the only time we’ve seen it empty. It looked larger and the floors and walls were (and still are) dirty. We turned on the water, checked the boiler, check the stove, the lights (we have bunches of blown bulbs and empty sockets that we need to buy bulbs for), checked pipes and walls. There are stickers left on a window and walls and measurements on walls from the two little kids who used to live there. It’s actually kind of sad seeing that stuff. At 9:30 the seller’s agent showed up to pull up the SOLD sign and turn over his key. We asked about the seller’s keys and garage door opener and were told to ask the lawyer. We left for our lawyer’s office at 9:40. I got us lost despite knowing where we were going and we got to the lawyer’s office at 9:56am


The lawyer’s conference room already had our mortgage officer and two lawyers in it when we arrived. We were asked if we wanted water, soda or anything and then got down to business. We were given pens and explanations of papers as they got passed to us for our signatures and initials. I found out later, but we got passed 102 pages in the next 40 odd minutes. The seller’s lawyer showed up and our real estate agent showed up at some point as well.

We discussed adjustment to our taxes (since the town’s old assessment was 100k over what we bought the house for) and found out that the new assessment was already very close to what we had actually bought the house for. We signed 5 copies of the HUD that aren’t counted in that 102 pages. Bear was signing stuff first, often faster than I could read and sign. I think he got into serious business mode. I realized that I need to get better at having a consistent signature. We also found out that the seller’s lawyer didn’t have either the keys or the garage door opener, so the lawyer made arrangements with the seller for her to bring us the keys.

We were all done at 10:43am and discovered that the reason our real estate agent was late to the closing was that she’d gotten us presents. A gift card to Target that was the same amount as the street number for the new house and a bottle of wine. We now have 3 bottles of wine sitting around because we don’t drink.


We’d just gotten to the house when the seller showed up. She gave us the keys and told us that she hoped we’d be happy and that it was a great neighborhood. While she was talking to us she got teary and then started crying. Her husband and her just divorced. Bear and I are pretty sure this isn’t what she wanted. Her best friends live across the street from us. It was sad. Bear had a hard time letting her leave so upset, but there’s nothing we could do. We went back inside to do a more detailed inspection and the moved the stuff we had brought into the house. We also figured out that our garage door won’t go down unless you physically hold the inside button, I have trouble with our driveway (first set of scratches on the new car as proof), we might need a plumber to come take a look at some plumbing, and we already have a water line where the fridge goes.


We got on the road at 12:15 to get the dining room table that we’d made arrangements to buy on craigslist. We first hit the uhaul place, got a van, drove out to get the table. It took longer than I expected to get the uhaul van and we didn’t get back on the road until almost 1pm. Also, driving a huge cargo van is kinda scary.


We got to the apartment at 1:15pm. The guy that sold us the table is incredibly sweet. He gave us his coffee table and linens and some crystal stuff as well. He’s moving out of state and wanted to not have to deal with any of it. We didn’t have any more cash to give him so Bear made arrangements to see if we could help him out a little more. When we’d loaded the last of the stuff into the van we were thanking him again (not just for the stuff, his friend and he helped us move all of the furniture down the two floors and into the van) and wishing him good luck and he started crying as well. Bear and I were exhausted and emotionally drained at this point.

2:00pm – 3:59pm

We got to our apartment at 2:08. We live next to a middle school and the parents start lining up at 2:15-2:20, so we had cars pulling up behind the van. We left the doors open as we pulled out all of the stuff to prevent cars from pulling up too close. We unloaded the entire van, stacked and arranged stuff in our apartment to fit it all, and tidied up a little bit. We then drove the van back and got our car and headed back to the house.


We took some pictures of the empty house and wandered around in a daze a bit more and then realized we were actually kind of starving. We went to a deli that we’d been recommended and got sandwiches and water. Bear and I took our stuff back to the house and ate on the kitchen counter sitting on folding chairs that we’d brought from our apartment.


We needed cleaning supplies and Bear refuses to take stuff like mops and brooms from one place to another so we headed out to Lowes. We were super loopy and tired so it took us over an hour to pick out a mop, broom, dust pan, sponges, cleaning stuff for hardwood floors, counter tops, cabinets, etc. We also picked out a red amaryllis that was blooming to give the empty house some color.

6:00pm – 7:59pm

We got back to the house. Bear stuffed the tiny uninsulated cat door with paper towels and plastic bags. I stuck Clorox tablets in the toilets and plugged in the air freshener. We put out the new floor mat outside the house and figured out a few more of the light switches. We have three that don’t seem to do anything. We also changed the batteries on the thermostats that were in the house. The house was 68 degrees and I was shivering. Bear could barely walk in a straight line. We felt like it was 2am in the morning. We looked around and looked at the supplies lying on the floor and made the executive decision to go back to our apartment and sleep. We lowered the temperature and left.

The plan was that we’d take a nap and wake up and pack some more at our apartment then go back to sleep. We left for the apartment at 7:30. We were completely loopy on the drive home and Bear talked (nonsense because he was so tired) to me so that I wouldn’t start drifting off and kill us.


By 8:30 Bear and I had taken care of emails that had accumulated during the day and passed out hard before 9pm. I think we’d logged at least 15 long phone calls to mothers and aunts and sellers and agents in addition to all the crap we took care of.

We woke up at 8am this morning. The plan is to actually clean tonight after work. Best laid plans and all that. At least I’ve actually gotten the utilities set up already.